The greatest compliment: “You’ve Changed”

Maybe you’re like me..

Maybe you’ve kept so focused on being “nice”, understanding, polite…

Maybe you’ve let one too many wolves tell you they’re sheep.

Maybe some times you just didn’t know how to say “no” or “That doesn’t work for me.”

Maybe for years you’ve suppressed the darkest parts of yourself for fear of the capabilities. You’ve kept your boundaries written in erasable ink and far too many carry an eraser.

Jordan Peterson, a modern philosopher and Toronto professor, says that not having a dark side isn’t what makes you virtuous. It makes you just another thing to take care of. What gives us virtue is having a dark side and knowing how and when to use it.

Analogy:

There’s sheep, a vulnerable thing to take care of. There’s the wolf, a dark and predatory thing with bad intent. Then there’s the shepherd, who takes the care to tend to the sheep and will also shoot the wolf dead if needed.

There’s nothing wrong with your anger, your ‘no bullshit’ meter, your fire. They’re our internal alarm system telling us when a boundary has been crossed or needs to be readjusted. (If we’ve been violated or betrayed a lot in life, our alarm system will be much more sensitive, but that’s a different post for a different day.)

Say “no.”

Say “that doesn’t work for me”

And watch who stays.

Watch who says you’ve changed and phases out of your life…

Chances are they were either sheep, preferring other sheep to do sheep shit with or … they were wolves, looking for an easy kill.

#shewaseasiertokill #wolfinsheepsclothing